Stay – Don’t Be So Quick To Turn The Page


At Panera having coffee

After 4 years, I just spent a week with my brother Alejandro. He departed last night and is back home in Guatemala, but to me, he stayed a little longer…

I’ve lived this process many times in my life, I detach from my family for long periods of time because we live in different countries, but this time I felt the urge to stay with this feeling a little longer and don’t be so quick to turn the page to go back to my real world.

Why? Here goes…

He told me a story the other day. It came as a surprise because you don’t usually get the spiritual talk form this guy (you don’t get it from me either, btw…). He owns a company with offices in Guatemala and El Salvador and about a month ago made the decision to close the one in El Salvador for different circumstances, which are not the point of the story.

He drove there to take care of the legal matters and as he prepared for his 2-hour drive back home by himself, he decided to do an exercise. He says he likes dealing with his feelings, really digging deep to observe them and experience them. If it’s sadness so be it, feel sad for a little while. You can always say “I’m ok, no big deal” and pump some momentary motivation and move on with a nice macho attitude.

Two hours later he arrives home to his family, knowing exactly how he feels. His feeling was one of relief, he didn’t have to travel all the time anymore, or deal with things and people he didn’t want to deal with. He can now focus on his life’s dream, which by the way has been a reality for the last 5 years, his company in Guatemala.

He moved on knowing exactly how he feels about it.

He left last night, we said bye with jokes and hugs, but this morning I felt his presence here, I didn’t want to let him go yet. I remembered his story…

I wasn’t ready to turn the page yet and jump into my daily action. I felt the need to reflect, to listen to his voice in my head, to observe how I feel. This time I refuse to just let it go. This time I wanted to drink the last drop left in the glass.

Feelings are stored in your heart, if you choose not to deal with them they turn into baggage that you carry around, and it can get pretty heavy.

I hope I didn’t get too soft. I can go on to say that there was energy of different tones of yellows and pinks dancing around us, but that’s not me, so after an hour of laughing and crying by myself I’ll just say this…

Bro, I had a sick time, it was off the hook, you are fuckin’ awesome and I love you.

  • Dian Reid

    Great post. I love the way you’re just you in this post. And what I mean by that is: you took your brother’s experience and applied it to your own life in your own way…so many times we take something great we learn from someone else and we try to duplicate it rather than apply it. Great story. You & your bro are lucky to have each other. But you already knew that ‘o)

  • Andreas Mannal

    “Feelings are stored in your heart, if you choose not to deal with them they turn into baggage that you carry around, and it can get pretty heavy.”

    Ahh, yes…Thank you, Francisco!

  • Denise Van Arsdale-West

    What a beautiful story, it makes me want to cry. Don’t worry, you didn’t get too soft, just spoke from your heart. What color was the energy dancing around, Macho Man??
    Thanks for sharing.
    Love you…..

  • Andreas Mannal

    “…so many times we take something great we learn from someone else and we try to duplicate it rather than apply it.”


    This is such a tremendous observation! Can I quote it in my ‘wisdomseeds’?

  • Francisco Rosales

    Thank you Dian, your words are very inspiring. I have setup my mind in learning mode, trying to remain open to learn as much as I can.

  • Francisco Rosales

    You know how many times I changed my mind after publishing it… Thanks for taking the time Denise.

  • Francisco Rosales

    Thank you Andreas! I’m enjoying your blog –

  • Andrea Bahamondes

    WOW! I got to experience all this LIVE, and it wasn’t until I saw the post that I truly got the goosebumps that simplicity keeps giving me. Today more than ever, I know that the most simple things in life are the ones that complete me. Even in free authentic moments when we shared a meal or a walk I felt the gift of BEING.

    “Stop trying too hard and let life happen to YOU.”

  • Alejandro Rosales

    Dear Francisco, you really brought me to tears, I am very emotional these days because leaving you guys is always hard. The experience you shared in this post was not easy but life sometimes puts us in the spot and decisions have to be taken. Sometimes we lose battles but, from any kind of situations we always can learn and grow.

    This week at your home with your marvelous family was great, you have a strong team in your house, I love the feeling of freedom and happiness you can sense there. Andrea and you are a strong couple. You’ve grown a lot, you’ve discovered the true meaning of life, which is enjoying the simple things in life, treasuring every moment no matter how simple it is.

    I have always admired you and this week we spent together was very inspiring for me. It enriched my life, it gave me strength. You were a real role model. Thank you for opening the doors of your house, but more important, thanks for sharing your enormous and beautiful heart with me. I love you!

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